About Counseling with Rebecca in South Windsor CT & Online in NY
Therapy when you're stressed out and overwhelmed doesn't have to be more overwhelming. When you're already feeling like life is full of stress, counseling needs to add to your life; not detract from it. You're taking time from your busy life to focus on you - you want it to be worth it! Finding a therapist near you can be a challenge - I'm glad you're here.
My name is Rebecca Burton. I'm a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with a passion for working with individuals with anxiety.
I have over 17 years of experience working with people who are maxed out, stressed out and ready for change. I believe in using direct counseling techniques that are about you and getting you relief as quickly as possible. My goal is to see you graduate and enjoy the hell out of your life without needing a weekly therapy appointment.
You have questions!
1. How long have you been doing this? What are your degrees and credentials?
Let’s get the details and acronyms out of the way! I graduated with my masters degree in Marriage & Family Therapy at Central Connecticut State University in 2001. After graduation, I continued to work at my internship agency and went on to earn my LMFT license in Connecticut in 2003. I was fortunate to have the experience of working with all sorts of clients - men, women, children, couples, and families - many of them struggling with poverty, substance abuse, sexual abuse, and/or domestic violence. I went on to work at an outpatient hospital clinic and at an agency that provided in-home therapy for adolescents and their families before opening my own private practice in Connecticut in 2005. I began to work primarily with anxious, stressed out individuals to help clients find peace in their relationships and their lives. I'm also licensed in New York State. Most recently, I earned a certification in Telemental Health & Digital Ethics allowing me to see clients virtually in both Connecticut and New York.
2. How do sessions work?
The first session is the most formal - you’ll already have done the paperwork online, but we’ll need to go over some guidelines and talk about your expectations for therapy. I’ll do my best to answer any questions you have about how it all works. We’ll clarify your goals and you’ll share some background information with me. After that, sessions generally are about figuring out what’s getting in the way of your happiness - sometimes it’s about sorting out your relationships, sometimes it’s about changing old thought patterns, or helping you set - and keep! - promises to yourself. Therapy with me is often active and goal-focused, but sometimes quiet contemplation is what’s called for. And we'll most certainly enjoy some laughs along the way...therapy doesn't always have to be a Very Serious Endeavor.
3. What kind of therapy do you provide?
First and foremost, I really listen to you. Clients tell me one of the things they like best about working with me is that I'm real, and that I help people feel comfortable and understood. I accept you, whoever and wherever you are in your life, and we'll also work hard on moving you out of your comfort zone. Though I don't always have the answers, I will help you find them. I'm curious about your struggles and will enthusiastically cheer your breakthroughs. I use a combination of styles and strategies depending on what you need, including practical goal-setting, reflection, cognitive-behavioral therapy, “parts” therapy, mindfulness, and visualization if that’s your thing. I also offer online counseling - convenient, private, and right from your own couch!
4. Why did you decide to become a therapist?
From my first psychology class in college, I was hooked. I love the tricky human brain. And then I found that by becoming a therapist, I could help people change their own lives in a meaningful way. And I knew through personal experience how helpful therapy can be.
5. Do you ever get sick of listening to people’s problems?
No way! You see, I don’t look at it like that. I imagine people showing up for therapy with a backpack packed with all kinds of stuff - childhood experiences, lessons learned, voices from the past, guilt, love, sadness, passion, hopes for the future, and frustrations about the present. Carrying around the backpack makes you tired and overwhelmed, especially if there are items in there that are unnecessarily weighing you down. I see it as an absolute honor that clients trust me enough to “unpack” their issues and allow me to help them sort through it all.
6. Did you grow up in Connecticut?
Nope! I grew up kind of everywhere. My dad was in the Air Force, and my parents loved to move. I went to 11 different elementary schools, so I’m very much aware of how stressful change can be! And growing up with so much change helped me to be a resilient, compassionate, empathetic human. I settled in Connecticut in 1991.
7. What are you doing when you’re not at the office?
I am inspired by learning, so I’m often doing research or reading, and I read for pleasure too. I go to libraries, eat delicious food, hike, do road trips stopping to find weird places along the way, and I’ve completed two Tough Mudders.